Equals

Gotttman has said some some powerful words:

“A man not willing to share power with his partner there is an 81 % chance that his marriage will self destruct.” Gottman

I like this quote because marriage is all about fairness. I also read and can testify from my own observance that it is not just about sharing power that will be beneficial to a marriage but it is about knowing that that power is there with the possibility of it being shared with your marital partner. Sometimes people get caught up in the linguistics of some issue so much that they may not see what there partner is seeing. The partner could and may possibly being seeing the problem in a way that is not just the mechanics but more about how you feel on any small suggestion they have on something. People sometimes just want to be heard and known that there “say” in a matter is cherished even if it doesn’t change something.

Tying in to the quote by Gottman above the whole point of marriage is to offer something into a humans life that can not be obtained solo. So since Gottman is saying that most likely there is a 81% chance of a divorce in not sharing power together then it shows how marriage is about a share of power and how man and woman need to come together and offer there inherent perspectives and desires on things shared together as a married couples. These things could be

• Children
• Income
• House appliance and decorating
• Clothes/style
• Vacations
• Recreation

Both people in the marriage can contribute to these things and make each of these overall better with both minds working on them.

Another quote I like from a religious leader says: The central feature of pride is enmity – enmity toward god and enmity toward our fellowman. Enmity means hatred toward, hostility to, or a state of opposition. Ezra taft bension

I like this quote because part of giving our power up in a marriage is about seeing others as a equal. Even though people can have certain talents and gifts everyone especially marriage couples can and should be seen as equals. If you cant see your own spouse as a plat form of being a equal it will be hard to see others as equals like yourself and you will will be living with false notions.